Affirming is the ONLY Solution

Yes, I’m talking about LGBTQ+.

The disgusting Don’t Say Gay law in Florida literally requires teachers to out LGBT students to their parents. Even though the lawmakers KNOW that child abuse, suicide and suicide attempts, and even MURDER will skyrocket as a direct result. Don’t fucking tell me the bill’s “harmless” or “protects kids”. If you support that, you need to do some serious fucking soul searching because YOU ARE ON THE SIDE OF EVIL!

And DON’T YOU DARE tell me that the people who fear for their very LIVES – BECAUSE OF YOU, I might add, if you’re homophobic and/or transphobic – are “snowflakes” or “overreacting” or “can’t stand free speech”. If that’s your reaction, you’re part of the problem and need to REPENT!!!

“By their fruits you will know them,” Yeshua/Jesus said in Matthew 7:16, and the fruit of homophobia, transphobia and general non-affirmation of LGBT and the idea that one’s orientation (and/or acting on it) is a “sin” is literally nothing but pain and misery and persecution and discrimination and suffering and MURDER and SUICIDE and DRIVING PEOPLE AWAY FROM THE FAITH. Conservatives with no grasp on reality at all think that being affirming and accepting of LGBT and treating them as normal people somehow drives people to reject God. Aside from how illogical that statement is, it’s a literal fact that homophobia drives so many away ESPECIALLY LGBT people who are told they’re going to hell just for existing or that they’re mandated a life of celibacy because of the sexuality that GOD GAVE THEM. I myself have struggled with my faith recently as a bisexual man attending a homophobic church and with homophobic friends and relatives. Also, the sole fruits of calling LGBT a sin are the sole fruits of conplementarianism, condemning divorcees (ESPECIALLY single mothers), and other judgemental attitudes.

Which is another thing – it’s an ABSOLUTE FACT THAT YOU DON’T AND CAN’T CHOOSE OR CHANGE YOUR SEXUALITY – GOD DOES. (He chooses your sexuality, that is; He doesn’t change it.) And Yehovah’s work is NOT an abomination.

Love, acceptance and affirmation (or at least lack of non-affirmation) – or accepting indifference (“Cool, now where did you want to eat?”) – is the only legitimate response to someone coming out. And none of that “Love the sinner, hate the sin” crap, because that dog whistle always means “hate the sinner and the (so-called) sin” (in addition to LGBT simply not being sinful).

I myself have been homophobic and transphobic in the past – even after realising I was bi – and I wish to apologise to anyone affected by my past insensitive and hateful words on the subject.

And yes, this post has accidentally become my coming out (as well as a means to let out my resentment at having to stay in the closet for so long and not being able to come out in person). I’m bisexual (pansexual?). Gender plays no part in my attractions – men, women, non-binary and every other identity (gender and sex are NOT the same), I’m equally attracted to all. And there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s completely fine. I’m not going to go to hell if I end up with a man (I’m single, so who knows), and I’m not going to go to hell for being bi/pan. Nobody will ever have to answer to God on Judgement Day why they were LGBT; plenty will have to answer why they were intolerant and hateful, though. There’s no hate like Christian love.

9 thoughts on “Affirming is the ONLY Solution

  1. Very well said. I am bi and it’s something I struggled with as a very young child, cause I noticed it growing up, but due to my strict religious upbringing and fear of even more abuse from my father than I already got (he outright told me I was disgusting and had disappointed God when I told him about someone’s attempt to sexually assault me when I was six and didn’t understand anything remotely sex related) and disappointment from my mother and so severely abused and gaslight myself until I had myself convinced I was “straight” again and it wasn’t until after the fire and we were separated from him that it started coming up again and I struggled with it and hated myself for a while due to my religious beliefs. It wasn’t until after Dad died that I felt safe to try and look into LGTQIA stuff more and even then it took me about a month or just over after before I could finally accept and be comfortable enough in my sexuality and now being able to live my life comfortably and with the peace I deserve as a bisexual Christian (though I may possibly just start identifying as spiritual and leave Christianity and organised religion entirely, who knows?)
    Love the sinner, hate the sin is bullshit because your sexuality is a part of you, so if you’re going to label that as a “sin” and hate that, you’re really also just hating the person as well. Yes, when someone does something wrong, if you love them, you correct them – but that only applies IF the other person did something wrong, and being attracted to different genders isn’t wrong, so the argument of “I love you, so I’m going to correct you” doesn’t apply here. And thinking that loving someone is telling them that they’re hellbound and sinners for whom they love is fucking disgusting!!! Jesus wouldn’t do that. Being a christian DOES NOT exempt someone from MINDING THEIR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS about other people. Just shut up, support them and leave them alone about it, if they want your opinion, they’ll ask.

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  2. Reblogged this on Racheal's Novels and commented:
    Very well said. I am bi and it’s something I struggled with as a very young child, cause I noticed it growing up, but due to my strict religious upbringing and fear of even more abuse from my father than I already got (he outright told me I was disgusting and had disappointed God when I told him about someone’s attempt to sexually assault me when I was six and didn’t understand anything remotely sex related) and disappointment from my mother and so severely abused and gaslight myself until I had myself convinced I was “straight” again and it wasn’t until after the fire and we were separated from him that it started coming up again and I struggled with liking girls along with guys and hated myself for a while due to my religious beliefs. It wasn’t until after Dad died that I felt safe to try and look into LGTQIA stuff more and even then it took me about a month or just over after before I could finally accept and be comfortable enough in my sexuality and now being able to live my life comfortably and with the peace I deserve as a bisexual Christian (though I may possibly just start identifying as spiritual and leave Christianity and organised religion entirely, who knows?)
    Love the sinner, hate the sin is bullshit because your sexuality is a part of you, so if you’re going to label that as a “sin” and hate that, you’re really also just hating the person as well. Yes, when someone does something wrong, if you love them, you correct them – but that only applies IF the other person did something wrong, and being attracted to different genders isn’t wrong, so the argument of “I love you, so I’m going to correct you” doesn’t apply here. And thinking that loving someone is telling them that they’re hellbound and sinners for whom they love is fucking disgusting!!! Jesus wouldn’t do that. Being a christian DOES NOT exempt someone from MINDING THEIR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS about other people. Just shut up, support them and leave them alone about it, if they want your opinion, they’ll ask.

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      1. Also, congratulations on coming out! I was also homophobic/transphobic in the past and that is something I truly regret and now here I am flip flopping between knowing if I am pansexual or just 100% rainbow lol. Anyways, congratulations, it takes bravery! 🏳‍🌈

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